Schedules been made

The tentative schedule is as follows:
Active Birth Control Pills through 5/25 (all four women will sync cycles)
Start Lupron shots on 5/23 (7 shots) I'm trying to get out of this part. It's to prevent ovulation, but I don't ovulate, so I think it's pretty stupid. I also have to give them in my belly, which they never showed us how to do. A call has been placed with the doctor. We'll see how long it takes for him to get back to us.
Blood work & ultrasound 5/30 & 6/9
Egg retrieval estimated on 6/16 * hubby needs to be available this day
Embryo transfer will be either 6/19 or 6/21

It's finally good to know what is going on and when. It really sucked no knowing how long all this stuff takes. Now the problem is my husband is scheduled for travel 6/22 to 6/25. If this tentative schedule is off by one day, he may miss the transfer. I told him I will be heartbroken if he's not there. Does anyone know, is he allowed in the room for transfer anyway? Or will he sit in the waiting area like he has been? I really hope if it comes down to it, that he can miss this very important trip. My fingers are crossed.

So around 50 days to go before the chance to get pregnant. I'll be counting down the days.

Stupid Teeth

Seems weird to be blogging about teeth, but I've read that it can relate negatively to pregnancies, so better to be safe... I for one, do not like the dentist.  Not really sure who does for that matter. Well, I haven't been in the last say 5 years. :(  That's what happens when you don't have health insurance and hate the dentist.  

I wish I took better care of my teeth! I've always hated brushing my teeth. I hate the taste of toothpaste & I have a terrible gag reflex, so I always end up gagging when I brush my teeth, which also means I never brush my teeth long enough.  

I had two problems this time for the dentist. I had a crown fall out a long long time ago and a filling fell out last week chewing on some candy...darn candy.  Well it turns out that filling fell out because of a cavity close to the nerves so I need another root canal and then another crown. (Yikes - this news brought me to tears this afternoon.)  And on top of all that, I have the beginning of periodontal disease! That mixed with my already decaying bones (post menopause)...doesn't bode well for my teeth.  I have an appointment for the Periodontist on Monday to see how bad and what needs to be done about that. I don't really want to do it, but having it makes me seven times more likely to have a baby that is born too early and too small. I can't take that chance with all that I'm putting in to have this baby.

Now I have just as many dentist appointments as I do fertility appointments. I will be happy when I get all caught up with my teeth.  I then hope to keep my appointments every 6 months and provide a good example for my little boy or girl when they come. 

Oh and my dentist had a story for me, which is kinda cool. I had to tell him about the donor eggs and that I had no control as to when I would get pregnant. So we could do all the dental work before I get pregnant. Well his sister needed some fertility treatments, I'm assuming with donor eggs, but she had two girls with the help of treatments and 9 months ago, at the age of 42, she and her husband got pregnant all on their own! That's pretty exciting. I hope that happens to us.  That would be so cool.

Our Match is Complete!

Got an email today that our match is complete. Three couples have selected our donor! We are moving forward. We are the second couple in the set. At first I was a little disappointed because I was hoping to move forward as a 1:2 match.  But looking at the positive...we are moving forward three weeks early.  I thought we would end up as the third couple, because the order is dictated by experience, but we didn't.  We still may get fewer eggs than we would like, but hopefully, we will be less likely to get bumped.  We'll be the 2nd couple to get bumped if not enough eggs are produced. 

My husband is pretty excited. I'm happy about that. He emailed his parents & brother and told them we were moving forward. He's cute. :) He had fun yesterday playing with our friends 2.5 year old little girl. He was super adorable with her. I can't wait til he's a daddy.

In a few days, we learn what the next steps are. I'm excited and scared all at the same time.

We did it ~ We picked an Egg Donor

We finally agreed on a woman to donate her egg to us. My husband and I both looked for different qualities.  

I wanted someone with similar talents as myself. I have strong math, athletic, and artistic strengths. So that was important to me. I also wanted someone with similar hair & eye color (even though I know that it's going to be very improbable that we will have a child with blond hair & blue eyes).  I was hoping for someone my height or taller or with family history of being tall.

My husbands main concern was he wanted someone on the thin side.  (I've been super skinny most of my life.) He also would have preferred if we got to see adult pictures.  He thought looks were pretty important and that their abilities were too subjective on the woman's part, which is a little true.

We let money be the final decision breaker, when given the choice of two women who would be great. We are taking a chance picking 1:3 woman. We will share the healthiest eggs with two other couples. We also let time be a decision too. If we picked a 1:2, we would have to wait for another couple to pick her, which could be a week, could be a couple months.  With the 1:3 program, two people have already picked her and if no one else picks her in the next 30 days, we move forward as 1:2 even though we are paying for a 1:3.  So that's good. We save $8,000. That's quite a lot of money.  The only drawback is, if we don't get enough eggs. (The minimum is 4).  Hopefully, the first one works great and we have 3 left over to try for our 2nd child.  If we end up with no eggs left over, that will be a bummer...as we would have to start all over again probably with a new donor. We are hopeful that it all works out because we would prefer our children to be from the same egg donor.

The genes our donor is passing down to our child:

5' 3" weighs 119 lb.  (a little on the short side...but decent weight)

Brown Eyes, Brown Hair (Dirty Blonde as a child), Fair skin

She's German, Irish, & Greek

She has strong artistic talent, high science & athletic ability, average math & music ability

Good teeth - didn't need braces

Her Mother & Grandmother have blue eyes & blonde hair...so their may be a slight chance...

Mother, Grandmother & Sister all relatively short - 5' 0", 5' 3",  5' 5", but thin

Very good family medical history - a little arthritis & eczema. Could have missing information because all the grandparents died from non-medical reasons and at young ages.

PLUS: She was a pretty cute kid, at least from the two photos of her as a toddler.

Now, we wait...at least 30 days...then another month or so to sync everyone's cycles...then another 42 days for the donor to produce lots and lots of eggs, then a couple of days for the eggs to grow to be big and strong, then transfer to wait two weeks to see if it works. Ack...that's a lot of waiting. So maybe in 4 months, I'll know if I'm pregnant...but oh how so many things can go wrong. Be positive. Boy, how that is hard.

Why can't I post comments on some blogs. :(

I've been to many blogs, which I wish to comment on, but it will not let me. They are always blogs that ask which profile to choose. I choose the google account, it loads the next page...then nothing, no comment, just back where I started. At first I was like, Oh well....but now, it's really bother me. Anyone else have this problem? What should I do?

I double check that I'm logged in. I also wanted to post a comment on my own blog, and it does the same thing. I must be doing something wrong. I even tried a second time to do it as anonymous. I am on a Mac, using Firefox.